Police Officers' Experience of Spouse Emotional Abuse: Its Impacts on Work, Family Life, and Wellbeing
Brenda Geiger, Michael FischerABSTRACT
Objective
This qualitative study examined Israeli heterosexual male police officers' experiences of spousal emotional abuse and its impact on well‐being, marital relationships, and professional functioning.
Background
Intimate partner (IP) violence research has focused on female victimization, leaving men, particularly those in hypermasculine professions such as policing, underrepresented. Within the Israeli context, familistic values, patriarchal norms, and a “warrior” ethos shape masculine identity, while police organizational culture reinforces emotional restraint and discourages disclosure, rendering male victimization invisible. Thus, the importance of examining these experiences and their implications.
Methods
A sample of 30 Israeli police officers completed an anonymous, self‐administered online questionnaire regarding marital relationships, coping strategies, and perceived effects on work and well‐being. Narratives were analyzed using thematic analysis.
Results
Five interrelated themes emerged: (1) pervasive control and surveillance, (2) erosion of autonomy and social ties, (3) emotional exhaustion and withdrawal, (4) diminished self‐worth and identity, and (5) entrapment and constrained choices. Participants described spousal control and monitoring as restricting social interactions and undermining autonomy and well‐being. Officers coped by emotionally withdrawing and investing in work; however, these strategies ultimately intensified distress and relational distance. Divorce was frequently considered, yet most remained in the relationship for the children and to avoid stigma. Disclosure was rare and constrained by gender norms, police culture, and family expectations.
Conclusion
Emotionally abusive intimate relationships significantly affect male police officers' personal and professional lives yet remain hidden.
Implications
Accessible, confidential, and culturally sensitive support services that address both individual well‐being and relational dynamics are recommended.